What not to wear to a funeral
A friend recently shared that she attended a funeral and was surprised that a teenage family member wore casual clothing and flip flops. I was surprised myself when attending a funeral at Arlington National Cemetery to see the thirty-year old daughter of the deceased wearing a bright and low cut dress that showed her cleavage. So it’s no wonder that those of us attending funerals might think, what should we wear?
We should dress in a way that shows respect so it’s safe to err on the conservative side and avoid bright colors, bright prints, and anything flashy or glittery. Stay away from the casual and opt for something on the dressier side. You don’t have to stick to black but choose darker or muted colors, such as, grays, dark blues, or browns. Women can wear pants, skirts, blouses, jackets, sweaters, or dresses, opting for a pulled together look. No sneakers, flip flops or too casual shoes. Men can wear slacks, sport jackets, or suits and appropriate footwear. The look you want is non obtrusive.
Funerals are not a time to be conspicuous; it’s a time to blend in with the other mourners.
Robbie Miller Kaplan is the author of How to Say It When You Don't Know What to Say, a guide to help readers communicate effectively when those they care about experience loss. Now available in three individual volumes: "Illness & Death," "Suicide" and "Miscarriage." Three additional titles are available as e-books: "Death of a Child," "Death of a Stillborn and Newborn Baby" and "Pet Loss." Click here to order.
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When my mother passed away 26 yrs ago, I wore a pale pink dress, my grandmother was not thrilled but I did not care, I know I was brought up to wear dark colors to a funeral but with my mom I wore this pink dress which she had bought for my senior pictures, she loved that dress and with much dismay and many words exchanged between my grandmother and I , I still was dead set on wearing that dress. That was the last time I ever wore it. I wore the last dress my mom ever got me to wear as we could never agree on dresses (I hated dresses lol ) and I did it for her as not only did I loose my mom I lost my best friend and she was my world back then, No I do not regret wearing that dress nor the color as it was her favorite and and I would have done anything to make her happy even in death, hell I would have changed places with her so she could be the one to finish raising the kids she left behind and not me. I do not feel a color should matter as long as it is not showing off what the good Lord intended to be covered. And even at my father's I wore sandals inside the viewing cuz that is what he would have expected of me, he knew I lived in flip flops and sandals and I knew he would not expect me to wear something different just for that but at the cemetery I did change into boots due to snow.
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